The Dark Side To Cancer Man’s Behaviours
The Cancer man is loving, tender and makes a good spouse. But there is something of the darker side of him that you need to know before you get shock about it.
He can be emotionally manipulative – A non-evolved Cancer will not be able to direct his emotions in the most healthy way. When Cancer man feels hurt, he is at the same time, afraid of being rejected or abandoned, in order to gain your attention, he will pull back and refuse to say what happened. You have to figure it out yourself. They tend to be emotionally insecure and unsure of what it will bring. Afraid to lose you and afraid to be rejected, he is at a loss and pull back constantly. He is drowning in his own emotions and didn’t realise his actions like can be hurtful to a relationship. You need to be persuasive and be patient. This is the only way to make him open up to you. He needs to be sure that you won’t leave him at a drop of a pin.
Since he can be so emotional and moody, he can also come across as childish, defensive, rejecting, passive aggressive, brooding and gaining self-pitying.
What To Avoid If You Want A Cancer Man?
Coming too forcefully, coming too strong
When you have a constant stream of gentle flowing water, it is peaceful and pleasant but when you come too strong, it is stirring the water’s calmness and turning it into tsunami! For a Cancer man, he values quietness and less of a drama so as to protect his inner tranquility and peace and he prefers his woman to be soft, gentle and kind, not coming to him forcefully or brash. Since the guy here is quite shy, it’s not a good idea to ask him straight out. You can choose either to be upfront about how you truly feel about him or patiently wait for him to make his move while giving him hints. In case he still behaves like nothing happens, you should move on though it might be hurtful.
In today’s world no doubt women are gaining strong independence and have fair share of views and thoughts about many things. For Cancer man, his natural instinct is to be a protector and to nurture. So allow him to do his job to want to care for you. Enjoy your perks of being love by him and don’t criticise or push him away for his efforts. This is the way how he shows love and it is his basic line of love language. If he doesn’t seem to be reciprocated for his efforts he would won’t hesitate to display it to another deserving woman.
Having Negative Mindsets
Don’t forget that Cancers are a sponge to emotions and if he feels that you are a bag of mixed feelings and someone who does not possess positive vibes, he won’t want to be near you for long term. He could be with you to help you and nurture you but he prefers to have a stable and secure mate who has emotional stability and positive strengths to be around him. Don’t forget, he needs you to help him grow out of his own emotional insecurities at times too.
Signs Your Cancer Man Likes You
His actions tell everything – You can be sure that he is very tenacious in his efforts when it comes to planning for occasions and special moments with you. He will walk up to you and grab you hand and won’t want to let go of you. He will be very thoughtful of everything when it involves you
He tells you deep secrets or ugly pasts about him – This, is the real deal. It means he trusts you, he feels safe with you and he sees you as one of his closest ones. To be able to share his innermost thoughts, is the highest trust level a Cancer can give away to the woman he loves.
He is getting protective of you – He wants to pick you up or send you off for work. He wants to hear from you when you reached your destination so that he knows you are safe. He will signal you to walk in the inner lane where there are passing cars at your direction. Even if he doesn’t tells you he loves you if these actions are constantly displayed on you, you can be sure that he is interested in you by being protective.
He keeps his promise – He will ensure close follow through and live up to his promises. If he said he will call, he will ensure to call you and if he can’t he will let you know in advance so that you don’t have to wait for him or get worried about his whereabouts. He will do his very best to meet you and turn up for the appointment despite his tiredness as he didn’t want to disappoint you and also by meeting you, will certainly cheer him up and make him better!
He keeps asking about you – He wants to get to know you. He will have lots of things to talk about and want to find out your likes, your interests, your childhood, whats your family like, how many siblings you have and even to want to understand how many love lives you have so that he can better understand you. But one thing about Cancer, he can get pretty jealous if you were to bring up your past with your Ex’s to him. He can shut off and feels inferior. When you are with him, he is the only one he expects you to focus on.
What Happens If Your Cancer Man Is Ignoring You?
- He is unsure about his feelings towards you – It is easy to spot him from going hot to cold because of his uncertainties of the relationship. It is possible he’s spent some good time with you but is now assessing how he really feels on a deeper level. This is the time (when he turns cold) he needs to truly assess and ask himself (usually the head) is this something he wants to proceed with in terms of a new relationship. So let him has his man-time and do not push him to respond, he’ll come around once he’s ready.
- Not ready to commit to you – They may still engage with sexual activities or intimacy moments with you and spend time with you but if they say they don’t want a relationship; they absolutely mean it. You will only get yourself hurt if you believe otherwise and stay on in the relationship in hopes he would change. The Cancer man will be in full on throttle, all out to pursue you if he feels right about you.
- He Sees You As A Friend For Now – First of all, Cancers are nurturing and protective by nature and they attract women to them because he is emotional and tend to understand a woman’s needs well. Misunderstandings will arise when the opposite sex mistook his kind gestures as love for her. When that happens, he will pull back to prevent any unnecessary drama and until the saga is over, he will come back to you to befriend you again.
- Values mismatch – Cancers are intuitive and they can sense real quick if something is off and you don’t come across as someone who can hold the same value or capable of being long term with him. He will start distancing himself in hopes to dilute the relationship and wish that you could take the hint and leave him without him needed to do the ugly job of breaking off with you.
Still Need More Help On Cracking The Cancer’s Code?
But if you didn’t feel that you’ve did anything wrong and your Cancer man is pulling away from you…? Then chances are he could be under stress or if you have encountered one of these that could have pulled him away from you. Not all Cancer man is created equal and it is important to decode his personality and understand his inner world before it is too late.
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More reading articles on loving the Cancer in the right way. Click here:
- Cancer Man’s Behaviour
- Cancer Love Traits & Personalities
- If you think he’s in love with you?.. You may want to assess further here
- The right way to love a Cancer man
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