Virgo Man In Love – Is He In Love With You?

What Is A Virgo Man Like When In Love?

virgo man in love

Ruled by planet Mercury, Virgo is next in line for thriving in communications, being analytical and all things mental! Virgo is a mutable sign and is highly adaptable, effective and down-to-earth, yes, Virgo is an Earth sign which makes it practical and tenacious in all his endeavours.

So how would this highly analytical and clever sign approach love? Does he even get emotional? What is a Virgo man style of loving? I would say Virgo is one of the quietest signs farming his way up to lasting love. Read on and find out more about this special sign that is so much underrated in many cases.

Virgo Man’s Behaviour

To deeply understand a Virgo’s man behaviour, it means you need to dive  deep into the psyche of the Virgo’s mind. Relationship astrology is able to pinpoint to some of these prominent characteristics of your Vrigo man which you’ll find here. To have a more accurate reveal of his true personality, an assessment of his astrological chart is highly recommended.

A Virgo male is rather introverted because he isn’t comfortable with all those emotions. Showing his feelings threatens the image he loves to portray of being calm, cool, and collected at all times. Although sometimes Virgo can come across as high strung and with lots of nervous energies, he can sometime contain himself well. Being in love makes him a little bit out of control but it won’t last, so enjoy it while it does. He’ll soon be back to his regimented discipline and logical approach to life and love.

The Virgo man is methodical and analytical. He can compartmentalise love and analyse it inside out at his own perspective, which love, is not to be dissected anyway.. Virgo man can find it challenging to display his emotional side but all hopes aren’t lost. Once you decode Virgo’s style and love language, you can know how to better bond with him and get him to commit deeply to you.

Virgo Man’s Love Traits And Personalities

Perfection is a Virgo man’s goal in life. He has a practical and direct approach to life and sadly for women who crave lots of romance and affections, there won’t be a lot of incredibly romantic moments, but he’ll work hard to make a good home life for the two of you.

He is very detailed oriented and you can be sure that life with him is well planned and he will have a list of contingencies plans laid out in case the original plan goes wrong. He thinks far ahead and is very thorough in anything he does, including his love for you. He wants to ensure he and you will live up to the relationship’s standard. But most of the times, as a perfectionist, it can sometimes be unattainable.

Virgo man is very loyal and his mission is to be of service to his lover. You can be sure that this sensual sign will be so good in pleasuring you and he loves seeing you enjoy yourself. Your satisfaction and happiness will be his benchmark and scorecard in the relationship.

There won’t be any sudden surprises or big moment in the relationships with Virgo men because they are hard workers who farm behind the scenes and need not want to be seen in the limelight. The best way to reward your Virgo? Appreciate them. Nothing will make them happier and do even more for you if their efforts pay off and they can see the smile on your faces and the love you give them

However, Virgo men can come across as too critical and sometimes can drive their love ones crazy by being nitty gritty and missing out the entire picture by being too engrossed into the fine details. There are certainly pros and cons here because you can be sure that whatever Virgo has planned out, it is simply flawless. On the flip-side, it can be too perfect that life doesn’t have a chance to make silly mistakes and enjoy the fun of thrills and surprises, which Virgo men could be lacking.

He will be the neatest and cleanest man you ever met. I have many Virgo men friends who will never fail to floss their teeth after every meal, iron pressed their shirts with starch to ensure no crease is found and there is not even a single speck of dust lying around their house. Oh did I mention that they are highly efficient and effective as well? As if they can make the best of every second counts!

Don’t Be Fool By Virgo Man

As much as there are many good points of a Virgo man, beware.. There are several dark sides to this man and you should be well prepared of before you get a shock of your life!

The Perfectionist – All Virgos are detailed, precise, believe everything they do should be done exactingly right, and have high standards for themselves. They have a keen eye for flaws and notice the imperfections in everything they do. Taken to the extreme, they can become engulfed of doing anything that’s not perfect. They may spend an inordinate amount of time redoing things, make critical self-evaluations, and worry excessively about the evaluations of others which can be counter productive. They may even develop OCD.

Order and Cleanliness – A Virgo can be a neat freak who has irrational fears of untidiness and disorder and obsessively worries if everything is not clean and in perfect order. They’ll develop habits and routines they can’t deviate from and spend a great deal of time repeatedly organizing, washing, cleaning, and disinfecting everything. Its a pain in the ass sometimes.

Fear and Insecurities – Virgos are hardworking and extremely practical, so saving for rainy days comes naturally to them. However, they’re also naturally insecure, tend to look at worst-case scenarios, and worry excessively about what the future holds. They can become highly critical and develop very low self esteem about themselves. They can never be happy or satisfied with what they have or who they are as they will always feel that something is always lacking and they need to further perfect themselves to be the best.

Low Self Esteem – Virgos often have low self-esteem and due to their high standards are constantly focused on making themselves better, sometimes to their own detriment. They may see only their personal flaws and failures, turn their need for perfection onto their body, and develop a warped body image. One perceived flaw, such as a big nose or a few extra pounds, can be all they see in the mirror. This negative body image can lead to falling prey to eating disorders or even a compulsion for cosmetic surgery.

Emotional Suppression – Virgos are introverts who live in their minds and are careful with their emotions. Showing their feelings threatens their perfect image of being calm, cool, and collected at all times. Again, it’s their fear of being seen as anything less than perfect that leads them to repress their uglier emotions to the point they erupt in anger or sink into a dark depression. In their darkest hours, a Virgo is apt to use alcohol or illicit drugs to numb their emotional pain or even engage in indiscriminate sex as a release for their bottled-up emotions.

How To Make A Virgo Man Love You?

1. Pay Attention to Your Appearance

Appearance is important for attraction in general, but a Virgo man places a great deal of value on his partner’s appearance. He prefers a neat and coordinated look over trendy fashions, so your hair, clothes and makeup should be simple yet perfect. Avoid heavy makeup or messy hair styles. He wants a sweet looking and the original look of yours.

2. Display Your Honest Character

You won’t win this man by playing games or trying to be someone you’re not. Be straightforward about who you are and what is important you, but have some tact and don’t try to rule him over. Just be honest about your strengths and let him know you’re willing to work on your weaknesses. As long as you have more pros than cons in your characters, he will be impressed! After all he is an earth sign and prefers a practical, and grounded woman who values her own self-worth.

3. Don’t Go Overboard

Keep your conversations down to earth and direct. Excessive displays of “personality” may ultimately lead him to think you’re pretentious. What he’s really looking for is a steady partner with real depth. He can pierce through you and size you up if you are trying to fake yourself. They want to be at the moment with you.

4. Avoid Messy Displays of Emotion

Virgo is not the guy to go to when you need to cry on someone’s shoulder, and he’s not enticed by the “helpless female” act. He prefers a partner who shares his analytical approach to life. He wants to talk about what he considers to be serious subjects, such as life, philosophy, politics, and religion. Try to avoid dumping your emotional baggage on him, or you just might scare him away.

5. Be Punctual

Show up on time. Virgo males are heavy on convention and manners. Showing up late for plans and events tells him you don’t value his time and if you do, that he’ll lose interest in you altogether. He needs to know you respect him, aside from your attraction to him.

6. Be Organized and Tidy

Whether it’s your home or cubicle he’s examining, this man likes a tidy environment and it is a MUST if you want to win his heart. A messy workspace or home shows him you really don’t have it all together, and this is not the impression you want to make. Most Virgo men appreciate a knack for cleanliness. He might even help you to arrange and tidy up your place if he finds it too disorganised!

7. Be Supportive

A Virgo guy can be just as critical of himself as he is of others, and he may be more insecure than he lets on. You can show him you care about him by supporting and encouraging him in his endeavours, and this should really attract his attention. He will appreciate you for your understanding and your thoughtfulness and tact.

8. Take It Slow

This man prefers to be in charge of the relationship, and he’s going to make sure you’re the one for him before he takes things to the next level. Don’t jump the gun and try to kiss him; let him be the one to decide if it’s time to kiss you. When that kiss comes, if it comes, accept it gently as though it’s the most natural thing in the world.

10 Things To Avoid If You Want A Virgo Man 

Find out what not to do to Mr Perfectionist! Here are our top 10 picks for you to avoid if you love a Virgo man:


Your Virgo man is not that free to acquire knowledge just to have superficial conversations. As a matter of fact, many people can confuse them for being anti-social for this same reason. As a classic introvert, the Virgo personality hates engaging in small talks. Chatting about the news can be a bonding experience for other zodiac signs like a Gemini (also ruled by Mercury), but not for this astute one. They prefer intellectual stimulation, and that includes romantic partnerships. Do not attempt to court them if you fancy surface discussions about the latest juicy gossips in the entertainment world.


The only thing worse than having a dirty home is someone who has a dirty body. The religious saying, “cleanliness is next to Godliness” completely encompasses the Virgo personality. They know that their outside appearance is a direct reflection of their spiritual value. Therefore, to be pure in spirit is to be clean in the flesh. Never go out with them if you are dirty or look unclean. Make certain to wash and style your hair. Clean underneath your fingernails, and keep your breath smelling fresh. A Virgo will be the first to point out that piece of food stuck between your teeth, or that you haven’t cleaned the crust from your eyes.


Though it may seem that being messy and being disorganised is the same thing, a Virgo understands the distinction and hates it all the same. A messy person will use their clothes, instead of a napkin, to clean their face and hands after a greasy meal. A disorganised person will leave their clothes on the floor after taking them off. If you do both, never invite this earth sign over to your home. The combination of being both messy and disorganised will crush a Virgo man. They function best when things are in their proper place; categorised and orderly arranged if need be. He’s Marie Kondo’s male version.


When you are with a group of friends to a restaurant, do you know how to spot the Virgo guy? Look for the one cleaning the table, utensils, cutleries and even chairs off before sitting down. They refuse to be surrounded by dirt and grime. They may even carry around antibacterial wipes and use hand sanitizer to stay clean. Now imagine how they feel about their home. For him, his house need to be cleaner than a public restaurant. Floors should be spotless and the living area kept tidy. Do not think you can leave the dishes in the sink overnight. “As long as I can see it, as long as I can touch it, it has to be dust-free” – Virgo man.


It is in their nature to find solace in solitude. They often use those moments of silence to take a deeper look into their personal lives. By themselves, it is easier to ponder the philosophies that guide us. If you want to keep this sign happy, let them enjoy their alone time. They will return to your company once they have fully recharged.


If you love a Virgo, never lie to them. Because of their incredible attention to detail, they are human lie detectors. They observe facial expressions, tone, body language, tonality in your voice, and any other measurable data when speaking to you. So they will notice when you are exaggerating the truth. If you ever cheat on your Virgo partner or betray their confidence in any way, know that the relationship is as good as over. Even if they forgive your transgression, they will never forget it, nor will they ever have the same level of trust in you and they will always be on guard and wary against you.


This earth sign, especially, does not like eccentricities, whether in behaviour or in style. You would never catch them putting on a gaudy look because they abhor anything flashy. Wearing layers of jewelry or ultra-bright clothing that screams for attention is distasteful to their eyes. They prefer well-crafted items in neutral tones that compliment the body’s natural form. Their dislike for over-the-top theatrics does not mean that they hate opulence. On the contrary, they have a deep appreciation for quality. They just have a more subtle way of living in their luxury. Virgo man is a complete opposite of Leo.


He is reserved and does not like to be the center of attention. They do not appreciate it. Being loud for the sake of having everyone’s gaze upon them seems crass in their mind and also a major turn-off. He will quickly dismiss you as immature or low-class. Even during an argument, they feel no need to raise their tone; not when they can destroy an opponent with their cutting words instead. Your Virgo man appreciates substance and depth of a person.


These people can back up their information with facts. Do not attempt to argue with them unless you can do the same. Your Virgo man is one who thrives on hoarding knowledge. He has the uncanny ability to filter through all the information and to catch the essence of it way better than any man out there, because remember? Virgo is detailed oriented! Do not think they have fabricated the information solely to win an argument. Odds are, these people came across this information a while ago and have been waiting on the perfect opportunity to use it.


On the surface, they may find your critiques unnecessary. Remember, they are their own worst critics. They have already overanalysed the outcomes and concluded what needs to be done with thousands of contingency plans to correct it. Sometimes, however, this may not always be the case. Deeper introspection into their psyche reveals that they could also be feeling insecure. According to Cafe Astrology, “They get nervous when others look at their unfinished work, and they are quite protective of their methods of doing things.” A perfectionist’s worst fear is being seen as imperfect. Unless asked, do not give them any form of criticism. And if you do, prepare to see their not-so-friendly side.

Signs Your Virgo Man Likes You

It’s not easy to figure out whether a Virgo man loves you or not. He is quite shy and also due to his reserved nature, others find it difficult to gauge his inner emotions. Though it is hard to figure out their mind, if they have not come out in the open with their feelings, but once they have confessed their love, then no looking back. Now if you have experienced these signs, then be sure that your Virgo man is definitely interested in you:

  • He will want to take care of you – that includes your food, diet, health, everything that concerns about you is now part of his project to want the best for you.
  • He will call you everyday – being a mercurial sign, he will want to talk to you and hear your voice. Communication is key and that’s one of the ways to get close to you.
  • He notices you and pay attention to you – He is super observant and will even tell you things you may not remember. He is equivalent to an amazing personal assistant as he knows what is your favourite color, how much sugar you need for your coffee and how would you want to place your cutleries before you start eating your food.
  • He will run the chores for you – This sweet gesture of him is part of his DNA when he is in love. Similar to point #1, he wants to take care of you. He is more than happy to be of service to the one he loves. Buying groceries, doing small little touches in the house to ease your burdens. Although these aren’t elaborative gestures but small little details do make a big difference in the long run!
  • One-woman man – you can be sure your Virgo man is only focused on you and he is loyal and committed with eyes fixated on you alone. He is already so engrossed with his new project (you) that he won’t have time to bother about another woman. He is not that scattered as his Gemini brother.
  • He becomes romantic and wants to be close to you – Virgo man tends to be reserved and shy because he is very wary about alot of things before letting his guard down to get close to someone. When he is romantic and getting intimacy with you, chances are you are in his favourite list now! You passed his hygiene checks, smell tests and basically the strictest test of a Virgo!
  • He can be critical (as he wants the best for you) – It may seem like nagging but if you appreciate that, he can seem cute and lovable. If a Virgo is not into you, he won’t waste time to even pay attention to you or to help you to advance to be better version of yourself.
  • He is more open to you – He wants to bring you to places he likes and starts sharing his world with you. Virgo man is not a fan of small talks so when he starts opening up to you it means he is very comfortable around you!

What Happens If Your Virgo Man Is Ignoring You?

There are times where the Virgo man is distant and seems as though he is being cold toward you. If he doesn’t text you back or get in touch at all, it may seem like he either isn’t interested or is upset.

The thing is, sometimes he needs a bit of personal freedom to keep in perspective who he is and that he is not being controlled. This will mean he shuts off from you in order to get this.

If you have pressured him in any way this may definitely be the case. If you haven’t been pushing and he does this; he’s just flexing his freedom muscle. It’s no need to worry.

As long as he’s still spending time with you and showing you he cares; him pulling back from time to time is a very normal thing for the Virgo man. Be careful not to harass him about it or he will ultimately lose interest in you.

But if you still feel that something isn’t right and your Virgo man is pulling away from you…? Then chances are he could be under stress or if you have encountered one of these that could have him distant away from you. Not all Virgo man is created equal and it is important to decode his personality and understand his inner world before it is too late.

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If he is the one for you and you feel that you want to do all that you can to get your Virgo man to love and to commit to you, you need to get the 5-Simple-Steps-To-Positive-Love to make your dreams a reality. It is non-manipulative, and you will have him love you in the most unconditional and natural way and he wouldn’t even sense that you are trying to get him closer to you! It is that simple, safe and practical.

Make committed love happens with your Virgo man, you can certainly do it and deserve it.



Jassy Clover


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